What Do You Think of Parents Who Smoke Pot?

by Jodi Shaw
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This post has been updated from March 2011 to October 2018 as a reflection of changes that are happening in our government. Thank you for reading!

I came across such an article this week and wanted to share to get your thoughts on the matter. The story revolves around a young couple who went through a living hell after discovering their child had a seizure and they rushed him to the hospital and the hospital mixed up the urine samples.

Maybe the story outraged me because I have dealt with social services in the past myself. My cousins baby was taken from her because the father shook the child. She was nowhere near her son at the time and yet was charged with child endangerment.

Maybe the story rubbed me wrong because the hospital made a mistake, and I know all about mistakes that can be costly. While diagnosing our son, a test they did came back positive for cystic fibrosis. It was a mix-up. Our son has cerebral palsy because of hospital neglect. So again I can relate to what this family went through.

Or maybe it’s because I think it’s utterly ridiculous that parents should have their child taken from them because they are suspected of smoking marijuana.

With the legalization of Marijuana coming in the next few days, it’s going to be interesting to see what happens with parents who smoke weed. I think communication is the number one thing that is important.

I have always been open and honest with my kids about the drugs I have used in the past. Like these parents in this youtube video explaining why they smoke weed. Parents need to be prepared for the questions that are going to come.

I do not smoke weed, not anymore but I did do it in my twenties and thirties. Weed makes me feel paranoid. I also don’t drink. Having bipolar disorder the use of weed or alcohol just doesn’t fit into my lifestyle.

However, 3.4 million Canadians use cannabis.

Not really shocking, right?

Do you think that parents should have their children taken from them for smoking weed?

I know several parents. Good parents that are loving, kind, responsible and with steady jobs who come home and indulge in smoking a joint to help them relax, unwind, and deal with their day. Do I think they should have their kids taken from them for it?

Absolutely not!

I think as adults we need to be responsible for ourselves and it’s our bodies and our minds if we choose to smoke marijuana that is our right. There are way more harmful things out there besides marijuana, take smoking cigarettes for instance. I never got hooked to smoking weed. I have been smoking cigarettes,  however, since I was thirteen years old and I’m addicted.

But smoking is legal and weed is not. At least (not yet.)

Is a parent a bad role model for smoking pot?

As the Today’s parent article I linked to above points out… nobody bats an eye when moms throw up wine meme’s on Facebook, but talk about smoking pot and suddenly you should be thrown to the masses as the worst parent in history.

I don’t believe there is anything wrong with parents who smoke pot. I think what is wrong is having a stigma against it.

We need to be talking. We need to educate our kids. Weed isn’t a gateway drug. People use drugs for many different reasons. Some for pain. Some to avoid life. Some because they are addicted to other drugs and enjoy that feeling of euphoria that comes along with the territory. But smoking weed never made me do cocaine or heroin or any other drug I may have been curious about growing up.

It’s a choice people make.

I do not think good parents, good people who choose to smoke cannabis should have their kids yanked from them simply because they smoke pot.  I also believe parents will benefit themselves and their kids if they are honest about their pot smoking pasts with their kids.

It’s a statistical fact now that many moms (not dads) are turning to weed to help them relax, settle after a long day at work and deal with depression in an economic time where medications are too costly and are more harmful to the body.

Again it will be interesting to see what happens. Smoking marijuana becomes legal in Canada as of today’s date October 17th, 2018. I don’t think it will be a huge celebration as people have been smoking it anyway (legal or not).

But it will open doors for more communication, responsibility and perhaps even more medical experimentations to help sickness in both children and adults.

What do you think? Do you think parents who smoke pot are bad?

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10 comments

Tasha October 26, 2018 - 8:11 am

Shauna was asking Joyce if she read the blog post that you linked to Jodi. She wasn’t asking if you read it. LOL! Excellent post by the way. I feel that this topic is an important conversation to be had. Though we make not all agree, I think it’s a great way to educate people about the many science based benefits that Cannabis has and end the stigma surrounding it. Although I don’t have children yet, as a Medicinal Marijuana Patient myself, I personally see no issues with parents smoking Marijuana. As long as they aren’t smoking it in the same room as them and are responsible about it. Any Marijuana users (recreational and medicinal) I’ve known that have kids are excellent parents and responsible about it. That’s just my experience though. The stigma regarding Cannabis needs to end. Hopefully legalization helps pave the way. I’ve never been more proud to be Canadian. History has been made!

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Jodi Shaw October 26, 2018 - 7:17 pm

What great comments Tasha, seriously and thank you for being so open and honest about it. I agree with you. I personally don’t smoke it, but have in the past. My husband is a medical marijuana patient and we have two boys, my first had no idea his father even smoked until he was a teen. Never knew. Dad never did it around him. Our youngest doesn’t know. Doesn’t need to. I’m also proud to be Canadian. And you are right, it’s time the stigma stops! 🙂

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Emily March 19, 2011 - 10:27 am

I'm 19 so perhaps my views will change as I get older. However, from my experience, pot is about as damaging for those who use it as alcohol is for those who choose it. My personal opinion is no, we shouldn't have people sitting in jail for smoking it, and certainly shouldn't take their kids away. I know a few emotionally-addicted pot heads who basically have no lives because of it, just as I know a few alcoholics who have no lives because of it. At the same time, I know countless people who are 30+ who smoke a joint on the weekend or maybe even just once a month or even just 3 or 4 times a year, and are still very involved, good parents. So in that sense its like alcohol. Most people drink at least a few times a year and their kids are fine. So I guess, yeah, it definitely can be a negative factor in some peoples lives, and for those people who have children its bad for their children as well because it does negatively affect them. But, as the child of an ex-alcoholic, I know how damaging that is on the kids too. and like you said, I still see people regularly who have a lit cigarette in their hand and a baby or toddler resting on their arm or hip, with the smoke all around the kids head. and that's still legal.

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hilda March 19, 2011 - 5:00 am

while not a pot smoker and not a fan of it I find it hard to throw stones as I still talk on the phone while driving. Breaking the law is still breaking the law and do I deserve to have my kids taken away based on this one action? well no because my talking while driving and this mom smoking pot is just a small part of the picture. It doesn't show the nights spend walking hallways while your child is sick or times cuddled on the couch reading books or the times you gave up something for your child. based on this one time incident it should not have been enough for social services to take a child away. When a dog bites someone the dog gets a second chance so why not a family? It is reasonable to expect that the mother attend a class to hear about the dangers smoking something illegal just like it would be reasonable that if I was pulled over while talking on the phone that I attend a class citing the dangers of doing this when there are children in the vehicle.

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Jodi Shaw March 19, 2011 - 1:17 pm

Very good points Hilda, and to Joyce too. Glad to get the conversation moving to get a better sense on how moms feel. I agree about the going to classes. I never drink when I'm in the care of my kids. It doesn't feel right. I always think what if something happens. What if they get a fever? What if they have to go to the hospital and I'm 3 glasses in on the wine. That's why yes we all make mistakes and I agree your kids shouldn't be taken but lessens can be learned.

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Joyce Lansky March 19, 2011 - 2:51 am

Although parents shouldn't smoke pot, I do not agree with her losing her child over it. However, this is a story that needs to be told as a warning to parents. In this society, any meaningful job takes training or a college degree, yet the most important job–being a parent–is granted without any training. Being a parent, means giving up those wild single days and risky behaviors for the sake of your offspring. Those who choose to continue smoking pot or other not so good behaviors deserve some sort of consequence. Do I think the mom needs her child removed from that home? No. But social services does need to be on her tail. Until we can certify parents as fit for the job, someone needs to monitor those who have acted irresponsibly. Parents smoking pot is not cool.

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Jodi Shaw March 19, 2011 - 3:26 am

I agree with your statement and all you have to say. We do need to be more socially aware that parenting is a priveledge not a right. I guess I just wish sometimes Social Services would investigate before taking children. This mom brought her child into the emergency room because he had a seizure, so obviously she cares. Ask questions before tearing apart a family. Social Services should be involved, I agree to make sure the child is safe. But through proper investigation I believe children are better protected than just yanking them from what they know and feel safe with to put them with strangers until the investigation is over.

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Joyce Lansky March 19, 2011 - 6:53 am

I'm sure Social Services saw the pot and asked, "Why had this child had a seizure?" I know I would have. It's not normal for a child to have seizures. The reason turned out to be totally innocent in terms of the parents, but that pot smoking was a red flag (after the urine mix up) that made them say, something's not right. I'm sorry the family had to go through so much hell; but hopefully, she's wiser after this situation. Social Services did investigate and found a woman high on drugs when they knocked on her door. No matter how you look at it, marijuana is an illegal drug, and she was stupid to have been smoking it–especially with a child in the home.

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shauna March 19, 2011 - 6:34 pm

Did you even read the blog post about the Mom that Jodi is talking about?? Just wondering…you sound misinformed! Just sayin'!

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Jodi Shaw March 20, 2011 - 1:21 pm

I did read it which is why I blogged it.

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