Talking to Your Kids About Bullying

standard May 19, 2012 4 responses

It’s never nice for a parent to know their child has been a victim of bullying. It’s even harder when you discover your child is the bully?

Helping kids cope and learn about the effects of bullying isn’t easy. There are things you can do to make it easier for your child to understand how bullying makes another person feel.

The other day my son came home, laughing because a friend and he purple-nurpled (twisted the boobs) of another boy.  The boy in question got upset, went inside and my kid thought this was a laugh-riot which I found to be way-offside and I told my son so. 

Ways To Deal With Your Child Bullying

1.) Don’t yell. Yelling will get you nowhere and yelling is a form of bullying only verbal.  If you want your child’s attention then talk to them openly and honestly about their actions.

2.) Try to get your child to put the shoe on the other foot. It’s very easy for kids to over-look their actions because they don’t always know how the other person feels. Trying to get your kids to understand how they would feel if they were bullied will go a long way to stopping them from doing it.

3.) Help your kids find their remorse. Being sorry is the only thing you can feel after you hurt someone. You can’t go back and change your action, but you can be sorry and prevent those actions from repeating themselves.

I feel it’s important as a parent, to be honest with my kids. So I explained to my son how I felt about bullying.

Coming from an abusive relationship with his father, my son understood as we talked about it. Bullying isn’t just physical. It can be mental and verbal.

My son felt bad for his actions and truly understood that had it been him (shoe on the other foot) he wouldn’t like it. He apologized to his friend for hurting him and they made up.

Bullying can lead to a serious issue. No mom likes to see her child get hurt, but especially no mother wants to see her child being the one doing the hurting.

If you notice your child being a bully, talk to them about their actions. Find out what they are thinking. Ask them what is going on inside their heart and talk to them about how bullying isn’t right.

Teach them to be responsible for their own actions, no matter who is involved. This will go a long way to helping them become a strong, loving and caring adult who won’t hurt others just for the sake of it.

Have you ever watched your child bully someone? 


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4 responses

  • Ann

    Hi Jodi,

    What a great, calming, teaching lesson for your son. And, you are so right, children do not understand all the feelings and consequences of such a small 'senseless' act. Putting them in the same position is a great eye opener for them. Bullying is so wide spread in our society, we all must address it when we see it.

  • Julie | Suburban Mom

    Wow – good for you for keeping your cool and being able to process the situation like that on the spot so calmly! I'm so afraid as my son enters JK in September about the entire subject of bullying!!

  • sounds like you handled it well! I am really hoping that my boys dont end up on either side of this as they grow up.

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