It’s never nice for a parent to know their child has been a victim of bullying. It’s even harder when you discover your child is the bully?
Helping kids cope and learn about the effects of bullying isn’t easy. There are things you can do to make it easier for your child to understand how bullying makes another person feel.
The other day my son came home, laughing because a friend and he purple-nurpled (twisted the boobs) of another boy. The boy in question got upset, went inside and my kid thought this was a laugh-riot which I found to be way-offside and I told my son so.
Ways To Deal With Your Child Bullying
1.)Don’t yell. Yelling will get you nowhere and yelling is a form of bullying only verbal. If you want your child’s attention then talk to them openly and honestly about their actions.
2.) Try to get your child to put the shoe on the other foot. It’s very easy for kids to over-look their actions because they don’t always know how the other person feels. Trying to get your kids to understand how they would feel if they were bullied will go a long way to stopping them from doing it.
3.) Help your kids find their remorse. Being sorry is the only thing you can feel after you hurt someone. You can’t go back and change your action, but you can be sorry and prevent those actions from repeating themselves.
I feel it’s important as a parent, to be honest with my kids. So I explained to my son how I felt about bullying.
Coming from an abusive relationship with his father, my son understood as we talked about it. Bullying isn’t just physical. It can be mental and verbal.
Bullying can lead to a serious issue. No mom likes to see her child get hurt, but especially no mother wants to see her child being the one doing the hurting.
If you notice your child being a bully, talk to them about their actions. Find out what they are thinking. Ask them what is going on inside their heart and talk to them about how bullying isn’t right.
Teach them to be responsible for their own actions, no matter who is involved. This will go a long way to helping them become a strong, loving and caring adult who won’t hurt others just for the sake of it.
It’s a common occurrence. One child picks on the other. Feelings get hurt. Tears fall and often parents are left wondering what they can do to help their child understand and accept it’s a sad fact of life. Dealing with a bully isn’t easy. But do your kids know how to spot a bully?
A couple of days ago my son JJ came into the house, huffing, and puffing. He was scared and could barely talk.
He told me some boy from across the street was over playing hockey and that he’d accidentally hit him with the hockey stick while taking a shot on net. One thing led to another and suddenly my son found himself in a headlock getting his gut-punched by a child much smaller than him.
First off I told my son he did the right thing by coming to me. It’s important for kids to talk to their parents when something is wrong in their life.
I try to teach my boys that open communication is not the same as tattle-tailing on someone or getting someone in trouble. Not when the main goal is to protect themselves or someone else.
First Step For A Parent Dealing With A Bully Is To Be Calm
I immediately went outside to have a chat with the boy in question. Being calm has never been something I’ve been good at. Not when it comes to my kids.
I got down on the boys level and told him under no circumstances is he to put his hands on my son. I would not tolerate bullying of any kind. If he should have a problem, he is to come and talk to me and together we can try to figure out any disagreements they might have.
It was then the unthinkable happened.
This boy. This small boy who couldn’t be taller than four and a half feet and weighing about a buck o’five when wet looked at me and replied…
The boy began to walk away with his filthy little punk mouth when I told him not to come back. He was trespassing and if he was going to hurt people physically I would have to go to his parents. He turned around and looked me straight in the eye.
I couldn’t believe what I had heard. I was flabbergasted!
WTF did I just hear?
Did this boy just threaten to kill my kid?
Now I will admit shamefully that part of me wanted to storm down the hill, grab the little punk by the scruff of his neck, and give him the ultimate beating his parents had obviously neglected to give their mouthy offspring. But I couldn’t do that. I would never hurt a child, and violence doesn’t beget violence. Instead, I did what any sane parent would do.
I phoned the police.
I told Jake I phoned the police not only to make him feel safe but to protect the boy as well, keep him from doing something stupid he might later on regret and besides, they both go to the same school.
Jake felt really bad the cops were called. He sulked in the living room. I could tell he wasn’t sure if he’d done the right thing. I explained to him that bullying on top of threats means that boy is crying out. Aiming to do hard to someone is never okay and should be taken very seriously. Nobody should ever live in fear.
The police came. They talked to Jake. The cop was so good. He explained how it’s more important to talk to someone than it is to fight back because you can get hurt.
Jake felt better after speaking to the policeman. Apparently, the boy’s mother explained he’s been having issues and it was good to report things.
We have a meeting with the school on Monday to make sure that the situation doesn’t escalate any further. Both the boy in question and my son need to be safe from harm when going to school.
There are warning signs to look out for. Bullying is serious and can lead to other issues. No matter what it’s important to talk to your kids. Make sure they know how important it is to tell someone when something bad is going on.
Have your kids ever had to deal with a bully? How did you help them? Would love to hear…