Sometimes I Hate Having A Teenager

He uses words like “sexy” “savage” and “beast” to describe what’s cool.  I thought I was cool. Apparently, I’m wrong. In the past six months, he’s become so distant at times, I almost don’t recognize him.

I HATE having a teenager.

I never thought that parenting would be easy. There is no HANDBOOK for kids. No instructions to tell us what to do as parents. As parents, we do our best to love them. Our best to give them the tools they need to make it in this life. To make the right decisions and choices. Everything they need to become happy, healthy adults. So, the fact I hate having a teenager doesn’t surprise me.

I even have some REASONS having a teenager makes me want to cry.

Who Is This Man-Child Before Me?He gets sweaty playing basketball with his friends. He listens to rap crap that makes my ears bleed. He’s almost five feet seven inches and wears a size thirteen shoe.

What The Heck Do You Mean You Don’t Need Me Anymore? 

Kids always NEED their parents, don’t they? Well, not according to the world of teenagers. In fact, there is a whole movement of ignoring parents because they embarrass you.  Kids grow up. I get it. There isn’t anything I can do about it.

That doesn’t mean I have to like it. I miss my son being little. I miss the way he would rush into my arms. But I mostly miss him needing me. Now he’s the one telling me to relax because he’s a big boy now and doesn’t need me anymore.

He Has No Idea How Much I Love Him. I remember the moment I first held him in my arms. I never thought I could love anything so much in this life and yet, here he was.

Funny how your kids not only enrich your life but they can help you grow. My son has helped me more than he will ever know.

He is my savior. He rescued me from an abusive relationship. He may not know it or even realize that as a parent I would do anything for him. Parent’s would lay down their lives for their kids. No joke. So when the time comes for them to pull away and need us less–it’s a bit heart-breaking.

Even if we want what is best for them.

Another reason I hate having a teenager is that it is so hard letting go. As I said it’s our job to protect, guide and lead them to the right place where they can find happiness. But in doing so, it means allowing them to make their own decisions. Allowing them to fall.

Having A Teenager Sucks Hard Core!

He is my first child. My first love. He’s a good kid. But I hate having a teenager because not only is he growing up but he’s changing and it sucks hard. I’m so grateful I had the opportunity to be his mother. I try not to take any moments for granted, and to always remember that loving him is a gift God gave me.

“Kids can be a pain in the neck when they’re not a lump in your throat.”


I cried hard today – alone in my room. I just want him to be little again. I want him to need me. I want to take care of him. I don’t want to see this sweaty beast man of a child walking around with the realization that in three years he will be driving. In six years he will be drinking. In eight years he will most likely move out and away from me.

Are you the mom or dad of a teen? Any thoughts on how to survive?


  1. Marni July 16, 2012 at 2:00 pm

    You made me cry!! I have a 22 month old son and just today I was thinking how I better treasure these moments when I can make him laugh over the silliest things. I love watching his tiny chubby face smile and light up and I'm dreading the time when I have to start letting him go. Why do they have to become hairy man-beasts??

    1. Jodi Shaw - Site Author July 20, 2012 at 4:30 pm

      I have no idea Marni, but it's not fun that's for sure. Awwww I miss my kids when they were that little, hold tight to your little guy and enjoy every moment hun πŸ™‚ thanks for commenting.

    2. Marni July 21, 2012 at 9:00 am

      You know I was also thinking later after I read your post that I don't know if our sons ever stop needing us, it just might look different on the outside. And that teen era is a tough one! But I have a brother who is now 27 and he loves our mama and talks to her often, but he certainly didn't when he 13, hehe (or 15, or 18 …).

    3. Jodi Shaw - Site Author July 25, 2012 at 7:37 am

      That is true. Both my brothers are close to my mom. I'm just a weepy mom lol who misses her kids being little. I don't want them to grow up hahaha πŸ™‚

  2. Angel Shrout July 16, 2012 at 4:39 am

    In November I will be the mom of 2 teenagers and a 20 yr old. I know this feeling all too well..

    1. Jodi Shaw - Site Author July 20, 2012 at 4:31 pm

      wow really Angel, I had no idea hun:) you look fantastic! Not easy watching them get older and become adults like us (okay hopefully) better than us lol

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