This is a guest post by my husband Corey Shaw
Jumping around the blogosphere on any given day, I come across dozens if not more articles on motherhood and how moms are coping with raising kids, doing housework, bad mommy moments, and just dealing with life in general. So, it’s no wonder that dads often feel left out.
Being a father is no easy task. Yet, sometimes if us dads talk about how we feel, we are perceived as wimps and whiners, especially when in comparison to everything that mothers do on a daily basis.
In no way could I ever keep up with you wonderful mothers out there. As a father though, parenting for me is time-consuming, draining and a big fat headache, and yes even the most rewarding. However, even dads get the blues.
I know that moms sometimes suffer from dealing with angst with almost everything but there are times dads feel left out. No matter what we do or say, sometimes we just feel (like the kids) in our household. Not always heard. Not always good enough.
I’m not blaming moms. Don’t put me there. I love my wife, and I cannot even compete with all she does for our family. She is the glue that holds us together and I have no clue how she does what she does. But most dads do the best they can. Not just to go to work but to be there for our wives and kids.
We are Thor, He-Man, Superman in a sexy red cape, and we are supposed to save the day, right?
I’m here to tell you that most days I am stuck in a phone booth feeling like Clark Kent with nowhere to fly. I’m sure many dads feel the same way. We have a reputation to uphold. We want our families to be happy. We want the bills to get paid, and okay we sometimes convince ourselves that we do an equal share of what our wives do (who are we kidding) but in all honesty, we just want to feel needed and loved.
The bottom line.
All you moms out there who feel you can’t handle things, you are doing an amazing job. Don’t ever forget that. Just try to remember that even us dads need a hug and kiss and pat on the back once in a while.
And to all you dads out there, take a moment to appreciate how your wives take care of things. Stop keeping everything bottled up inside. Part of being a strong man means being vulnerable. So talk about the things that bother you, and remember it’s okay to feel left out.
What have you struggled with the most parenting? What has been your most challenging moment? I wanna know, these things are important…
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