Don’t Let Fear Stop You From Achieving Your Goals

When I was twenty-two years old, I wrote my very first romance novel. All I dreamed of being was a writer. Ten years later, I wrote another book. Then another. And then a few more. Each one filled with unique characters. Each one sitting in a file on my laptop collecting cyber-dust.

I wasn’t afraid of failing. The truth was, I was afraid to succeed. I know that sounds silly, doesn’t it? I mean who doesn’t want success in their life? But fear of doing well, having others have expectations of me was what was holding me back. I would get anxiety just thinking about it.

Fear of Success Is Harder to Deal With Than Fear of Failure

Self-sabotage is the number one reason people fail. It’s easy to fail. Okay, maybe not for some. But honestly growing up we are constantly told as kids when we do something wrong. So failing just becomes a normal part of the achievement. Fear is the enemy. That’s why today, I decided to ‘out’ myself and share my fears with you.

Putting Yourself on Display Even Successfully Can Render You Paralyzed with Fear.

Putting myself out there means opening myself up to being scrutinized and criticized about something I am truly passionate about and love to do. It can be a little scary and can even put you on the defense. It’s like someone putting down my kids. My temper rises and my ‘mama bear’ instinct to kick-ass shows up. It exposes me to new demands. I often wonder what if I can’t meet the challenges that face me? So, I just don’t take the risk.

Fear of Change and Being Someone Else Can Be Scary

When I think of authors like Stephanie Myers and J.K. Rowling. Two women who fell into success overnight basically through their amazing storytelling. I look at them today, and I’m grateful it’s not me. Not that I am saying I’m as good of a writer as they are.

I have days where I can’t string two sentences together and need the help of places like to give me some creative insight. But grammar checkers, online plot helpers and even advice from professional writers cannot force you to reach our goals when fear is a blinding wall of darkness surrounding you.

When I think of successful people, writers, actors, politicians, anyone famous, it’s frightening to think of losing myself and becoming someone else within the process of finding success. But change means growing. Change means expanding. It’s about embracing all the good things you know about yourself and adding to them. Not taking them away.

I guess I’m afraid that if I become successful in my writing, it will mean more demands will be put on me. But then hubby says that’s not true. The only demands to be put on me are those I put on myself. I still have choices to make, and I have to be comfortable making those choices. More choices can lead to a richer life.

So How Can You Stop Yourself From Being Afraid of Success?

  • Boost your confidence by reminding yourself daily you are worth it.
  • Join a network in the field you hold interest or passion in for support.
  • Remind yourself what success can bring you – more choices = more opportunities in your life to grow and expand who you are.
  • Remind yourself you are doing this for you and nobody else. Other people’s opinions matter but they shouldn’t change you wanting to meet your goals.
  • Trust yourself more with what you know about yourself in being honest with yourself.
  • Think of criticism and opinions like building blocks to the structure you’ve already built. They can only make it stronger if you allow them to be part of the foundation.

Do you have a fear of succeeding at something? What tips do you offer to those who do?

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