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As a mother, woman and writer, I’m constantly asking myself questions. How can I improve my life? How can I grow and change? How can I move forward, inspiring others to do the same? Then Dove asked me has there ever been a time I felt like quitting an activity I loved because of how I felt about my body? The answer is yes. I was seventeen and I entered a singing competition.
I started performing at the age of five. It began with tap dancing and singing. My mother used to make my costumes for me when I performed. She was my biggest fan. As I grew, I continued performing on stage in school musicals, drama club, joined the Jazz Quoir, and I even toured Europe with my classmates. I loved performing. I loved the thrill of being on stage, singing my heart out, listening to the applause. But I mostly loved how it made me feel.
I have always struggled with my body weight. Growing up being teased, called fatty, whale on the beach, let’s harpoon the big one. These were every day occurrences for me. Singing provided me an out. A way for me to celebrate myself without worrying about how I looked. My voice was my girl power, and I used it to my full potential.
The competition went well. It came down to three of us girls. I was super excited. I wanted to win so badly. The opportunity of getting a recording contract was something I had dreamed of. Then it happened. I overheard one of the judges talking about my competition, this tall, redhead. She couldn’t sing very well but I had to admit, she was truly beautiful, and apparently everything they were looking for. She won the competition, not because of the sound of her voice but because of how she looked.
I remember feeling so totally defeated, wondering why even bother doing this? It was at that moment I felt like giving up something I loved, despite others in the audience who told me how great I was. It didn’t matter at that moment. I had lost. Then my mother did something she’d never done before. She reached down and grabbed my hand in public, giving it a squeeze. I glanced up at her and she smiled with tears in her eyes. My mother who never liked holding hands or even hugging much really. She was emotional and I saw it in that moment. She was proud of me.
Are you an unstoppable mom?
As moms it’s our job to support and inspire our children. Did you know that 1 in 6 girls either avoid or drop out of activities because of how they feel about their bodies? That makes me sad inside, because it means that these girls are missing out on school dances, sport events, leadership roles. They are missing out on their true potential. Girls are less likely to feel anxious about their looks if they have a proper role model to help support and guide them. Unstoppable moms that set positive examples for their daughters deserve to be celebrated!
If it wasn’t for my mom that day when I lost the competition, I think I would have given up singing. But I didn’t. No matter how I look, how I feel, how others try to make me feel. My mother taught me that day that not only was she proud of me. But that I should be proud of me, too. And I am. And as a mother it’s my job to make sure my kids feel that way as well. Because nobody should ever stop singing.
Are you an unstoppable mom? YummyMummyClub.ca about amazing unstoppable moms:about a time when you thought about quitting an activity you loved because of how you felt about your body and let them know how you think moms/role models can better support girls to participate in activities. You have until June 13, 2013 to enter. You could win $2,500 for yourself and $2,500 will be donated to help raise a girl’s self-esteem. Check out more stories on