Imagine someone telling you as a woman you can’t work, have the career you want, take pride in heightening your individuality or your want to contribute to your society to become smarter, more independent and more financially capable for yourself. Crazy right?
That’s what is happening in China. Women are advancing in their careers and playing a bigger role in their society that surpasses being just a mother or wife. And because of this, they are being labeled Sheng Nu meaning “Left Over Woman” if they aren’t married by 25 it means they’ve been passed over by men. And it needs to stop!
I spent 12 years married to the wrong man and because of it suffered from abuse, lack of self-confidence and spent the next 12 healing from it. I’m proud to be a mother and wife, but if you told me I had to give up blogging or writing, web designing, and the role I play within my community or I would be deemed a piece a garbage. I would flip right out. Wouldn’t you?
I find it hard to believe that there is still places like in China where they have a “Marriage Market” where parents post and compare personal ads listing their son’s/daughter’s height, weight, salary, values, and personality all unaware their parents are doing so. But women are fighting back for their right to marry when they want and who they want.
MEET MINGHUA – A SINGLE WOMEN BEING LABELED SHENG NU
Minghua is 29, a single child from a loving family. She graduated from the most prestigious college in China. She works for a big law firm. She loves to travel. She goes to the gym, watches movies, has tons of friends and is loved by her family. She is not married and has no boyfriend and is waiting until she finds someone she really loves. Minghua sounds like many of us out there. Except she’s not. Below is the perception placed on her by being labeled Sheng Nu
It’s Time For Us To Change Globally
We need to change things. We need to empower one another, stand up for each other and globally take responsibility for what is going on. Today might be today but tomorrow can be different.
The pressure on women to marry for the wrong reasons needs to change. Women around the globe need to band together, help women in China have the same freedom that many of us do in making the choice for ourselves without the pressure from society or family and friends. As women we’ve all faced the “Isn’t it time you settle down” or “You should have a boyfriend” questions and labels at one point in our lives. The difference is that Sheng Nu follows women in China if they aren’t married by the age of 25 predestining them to a life without love and that is just plain wrong!
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This film is important. Share it, blog it, talk about it. A makeover was done at the Marriage Market filling it with beautiful installations that were not ads but messages from hundreds of independent women/daughters wanting control over their own destiny.
This result of this film is so empowering from women who won’t let pressure dictate their future. Sheng Nu are NOT leftovers but strong and powerful women who can choose to get married if they want and when they want.