It’s Father’s Day today. A day that is (sometimes) if not even often overlooked. Like all little girls growing up, my father was my hero. He was my knight in shining armor. When he said something, I listened. I compared all boys to him. The one who I felt could do no wrong. I think we all do that, put our daddy’s on pedestals. And of course, I learned years later he was only human, just as breakable, emotional, and imperfect as the rest of us. Yet, he still remains on that stand way up high as the one person in my life that I need almost as much as my mother to help guide me through things.
There is so much that I remember growing up about my dad. I remember how hard he worked as a cab driver for Yellow Cab in Vancouver. I remember him taking time out after working days in a row just to make ends meat, and coming to both my brother’s and my soccer games or baseball games. Standing on the sidelines to cheer me on, then hopping in his cab to drive to another school to support my siblings, and then going back to work.
You can always take time out to be a father. There are no excuses.
I also remember certain looks he would give. When dad got angry, you knew it. Not by his tone of voice but the look he had on his face that told you to (run) if you knew what was good for you because death was certain to follow, if we talked back or were rude to our mother. Two things he would never tolerate. He taught us kids to have respect for adults, each other and in life.
The youngest of five and a twin, my dad loved his siblings. He grew up in hard times with a father that never taught him very much about life or love. Then he met my mom. She taught him those things, and he gave them right back to her. I remember days when he’d come home, get down on his knees, kiss her because he’d been gone working for so long. The love he had for her was something I used to dream about for myself one day. And after almost 45 years still married. He’s still a good man. Mind you, maybe a tad bit grouchier than before LOL He still tries to be himself, and tries hard I think to learn to be patient, kind and understanding.
What I remember the most about my dad growing up was his sense of humour. He still thinks he’s funny (which he is) but don’t tell him that. He used to lock my friends in the closet, hold the door with his hand while they giggled asking to be let out. He’d cracked jokes with my friends and everyone he knew. But I think the number one thing that he taught me was to be myself. To laugh at myself. And to not take life too seriously.
So without further interruption. Here are 40 things that my father taught me growing up or things that my father said to me that I will never forget.
- Math is important whether you think it is or not. One day you will need to use it without a calculator.
- A bus is coming in twenty minutes be under it.
- Respect is not something you just give away. It has to be earned.
- Singing O’Canada at the top of lungs in any voice is acceptable no matter how bad or loud you do it.
- It’s true a person can actually sleep while their house is flooding.
- Wrestling is a real sport.
- When I was your age…
- The food that is put in front of you to eat should never be wasted.
- It’s okay to kiss your kids on the lips there isn’t anything strange or weird about loving your children.
- Hugs can actually heal.
- Were you raised in a barn?
- You might think your parents are being hypocritical by telling you not to do something they have or are doing, but it’s not true. They just don’t want you to make the same mistakes they did.
- A 57′ Beaumont is a very cool car.
- Being the man of the house is important but being the woman of the house is even more important, cherish your mother’s.
- Do as I say and not as I do.
- Don’t make me stop this car!
- Laugh at yourself because the world is laughing at you so you might as well join in the fun.
- Never take life too seriously. There’s no point. Eventually it all comes out in the wash.
- Washing red clothes + white clothes = pink clothes.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- I brought you into this world I can take you right back out!
- Men are just as sensitive as women are. They cry, get sad, depressed, feel weakness, and that’s okay.
- You didn’t have to have a great father in your life in order to be a great father to your own children.
- Facts are facts. Opinions are opinions. You can’t argue a fact.
- Money doesn’t grow on trees.
- I’m doing this for your own good.
- You can give your kids a spank for doing something bad and still take them trick or treating.
- Always check under your kids pants for a book before giving them a spanking on the butt.
- Liver actually is a meat and does taste good depending on how it’s cooked.
- Dinner on Sunday’s as a family is more important than you will ever know.
- All father’s come with superman capes you just don’t always get to see them fly.
- It’s true you can make your kids eat a bar of soap willingly for being rude.
- Behind every good man is a woman who loves him.
- There is a difference between hard work and working hard.
- Nothing in this world will change if you don’t open your mouth and speak up.
- Don’t ask the question if you don’t want the answer.
- What you see is what you get beyond that is just a bonus.
- Always believe in yourself.
- Don’t take crap from other people.
- Words are just words they only hurt if you let them.
Thank you dad for all the things you’ve taught me. Thank you for always being there. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for making me laugh, even when I thought you were picking on me. Thank you for trying to love my mother the best you can each and every day. Thank you for being yourself, and for teaching us that life is too short, enjoy every moment because you never know what’s around the corner.